It’s been an especially challenging week; besides Jeff’s latest surgery and recovery issues, I’ve had to deal with a troubling situation at work, which has once again thrown me into an internal meltdown. This situation was just so out of the ordinary, and of course the timing was at its worst.
As a Supervisor of a team of great people; I didn’t see this coming, and the person it came from really came out of left field because it was one of the people I had trusted the most in the last few years. I’m still trying to wrap my mind around it, but this is one of the toughest shocks I’ve had to deal with in the nearly 24 years that I’ve managed a Security team at this location; which has really caused a deep hurt more than anger. Sadly, the “friendship” is beyond repair, but now I have to find a way to forgive and move on; but I will never forget, and I have certainly learned a valuable lesson.
If any of you reading this is a Manager or a Supervisor in any field, I warn you to please do NOT get personally involved with your employees; you will only get burned in the end. Business only is the safest route to protect you. I have always felt that showing gratitude to your employees who do their job to their fullest every day is just as important as a raise in salary; at least I like to be shown appreciation even when a raise isn’t possible every year. Showing appreciation does keep morale up and in turn it keeps people with you longer.
With my current team, I went above and beyond in showing my appreciation because they are the best team I’ve ever had overall! I will not take the time give an itemized list, just know that I had never felt like we had a close knit team, until this particular team, and I’ve made damn sure that I let them know that I appreciate them in many ways.
The first time I have had to perform the ugly, and not so fun part of the Supervisor’s job to one of my most trusted employees; it all just blows up in my face! I think I’m the most angry at myself, because maybe I over did the appreciation, and this person never had any respect for me to begin with; considering the verbal attack and an entire list of bold face lies, that they all of a sudden bring to light that wasn’t there before.
The one thing I am doing differently now is that I will allow the facts to speak for themselves, and that it is nothing more than a tantrum, because I’m supposed to allow things to slide. Again, my fault because I wanted to give my team more appreciation and not sweat the little issues and just ask them to “work on it.” I have to say that this one will take some time to get over. The accusations are not only false, but they are very hurtful as well. It’s amazing how people have a gift at twisting words around! I was told that a good Supervisor has little friends, so it’s business only and a few words of thanks from now on.
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